There is no doubt that wedding planning can be overwhelming, so Mom lending a hand with the details can be a huge help. But there are some basic rules of etiquette and custom that all moms should abide by.
DO: Offer to help in whatever way the couple needs, and let them know your availability, schedule, and how much time you are willing to invest.
DON’T: Take over any aspect of the planning without the bride’s say so. As tempting as it may be to move in and take over, this day belongs to the couple. Everyone else is there to honor the bride’s wishes.
DO: If you are paying for the wedding in whole or in part, give the bride a clear budget to work within.
DON’T: Pull rank because you are paying for the wedding. The couple should have free rein to spend the money as they see fit. Keep in mind, if you need to change the amount of money you can contribute, let the couple know immediately.
DO: Offer advice if something is clearly missing from the plan, for instance, “Since the guests are walking across a field to get to the tent, will we provide umbrellas if it rains?”
DON’T: Offer your opinion on the couple’s choices that do not affect the well-being of the guests, for instance, ” I wish you picked a more traditional venue, I don’t like this one”.
DO: Offer to speak to all the vendors and handle all questions, only bringing the necessary issues to the couple for a decision. (Make sure you have clarified expectations)
DON’T: Make major decisions, like changing from roses to orchids, without the couple’s approval.
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